Yes I'm still here, just about succeeding at living my real life more than my virtual one! I sometimes spend far too much of my time, picking up my phone and scrolling through social media, and for what? Nosiness? Laziness? Actual interest?
All of the above I'd say!
So here I am, back here and giving you something to actually read. Something you may remember tomorrow, something you may relate to, and if you choose to live your real life instead of reading it, then I can't argue with that!
Time really does fly, whether you're having fun or not!
Can you believe it's almost April? More to the point, can you believe we say the same thing every year? and time just goes even more quickly!
Since my last blog post, my daughter got a year older, my Grand-children got a year older and we all know what that means, but as always I'm clinging on to my youth. Don't worry I don't mean I'm donning my shortest and tightest skirt whilst wobbling on too-high heels (Been there, done that! & no doubt a feat in itself, in the Lake District)
But I do mean that I'm pretending I haven't seen those new forehead lines in the mirror and while some may call my crocheting a 'Granny hobby', I'm proud to now call it FernWoolCreations!
Yes, I've finally got round to opening my Etsy Shop and yes, I'm plugging it right here! 😉
I'd love you to take a look and if you like what you see, buy something unique, handmade and beautiful, (My wool creations really are beautiful! 😍)
BUT, this brings me to something I've been thinking about, something which I think we can all relate to.
I'm talking about head space, down time, therapy.
You know I'm right 😊
I know taking time out can seem like a dream at times, and I won't pretend that I haven't hidden in my bedroom just to get five minutes of peace when my children were younger, but we all know, deep down, that we should do it.
For our health, our happiness and for our sanity.
What has this got to do with crocheting?
Well, whether, you think it's a Granny hobby or not, it's one of the things that helps me relax, and completing a project gives me a sense of achievement (Yep - not all achievements are lit with neon lights). When I crochet, I'm chilled, I'm watching tv, I'm working through some things in my head or simply enjoying being creative.
Crocheting is my down time, one of my outlets and that's crucial.
As tempting as it is sometimes to just curl up and hibernate, (I get that completely) it's also a good thing to get outside! Do you really think your parents shoved you out to play just to get rid of you? (Of course they did!) it also helped you run off pent up energy/moods/frustration and helped them have a quiet night, because you'd be asleep from so much fresh air. 😉
Think about it, it blows the cobwebs away, it lets you think, makes you appreciate and yes, helps you sleep. My only exercise is walking so I use my Fitbit to track steps and use my walk as head space. Trust me when I say, going for a wander has saved me from arguments, saved me from making bad decisions and definitely stopped me from biting the kids heads off!
So if you need some head space, get outside and breathe!
Baking also works for me (Bonus: you can eat the rewards! should probably then go for a walk for balance!) Reading and writing is another creative outlet - quiet time, and escapism.
So as well as the launch of my Etsy Shop, (another shameless plug) meaning more relaxed crocheting, there are lots of things that give me down time and I've learned, finally, to value them. 🙂
So what do you do to relax? What's your outlet/down time/ therapy?
Whatever, you call it, we all need it. Life is busy and making time for ourselves, even if it is five minutes hiding in the bedroom, is important stuff.
If we don't keep ourselves fresh, alert and sane, we are, as my late Nana would say, neither use nor ornament!
Let us know how you clear your head in the comments below.
Hello, I'm Sarah, Blogger in the Lakes.
No I haven't gone mad...
After two blog-free months, I thought I should jog your memory and say hello.
(Imagine me waving a little too enthusiastically here.)
Since my last blog post, Virtual Life V Real Life, (a link just for you!) I have:
We're running on limited sleep, the laundry is climbing the wall, I had to spring clean the house because I could taste the months of dust and I can't even muster the energy to sing in my car.
Yes, we're that tired.
(To all my friends with babies - I apologise for my thoughtless comments.)
I like people, mostly, but my patience has been tested.
I've nearly been driven off the road several times by stressed drivers making bad decisions. I've been rammed with shopping trolleys. I've been barged off pavements. I've driven behind people doing 30 mph in 60 mph zones and, I, Simply Sarah, even resorted to flashing a driver who was doing 40 mph below the speed limit and causing a long tailback. No they didn't get the hint.
I've endured rude people, smelly people, attention seeking people and have been glad to go into work for the break!
We all needed to get somewhere, we all wanted to breathe in the fresh air and we all needed parsnips. Yet some people apparently had priority. I found myself breathing deeply on several occasions to avoid getting as stressed as everyone else!
(& gin, I found gin)
I know, amazing right? In the two months of bonkersdom (My own word) I've learned things!
Taking the hint from my very own blog post back in November, I focused on my real life. There was simply no way I could fit blogging into the Christmas mix and the world carried on, in fact no-one even noticed I wasn't around! (What a presence!)
I learned that Christmas isn't great for everyone. I love Christmas but as I watched my husband coughing, snotting and sleeping under a duvet on Christmas day it made me think. Our festive fun has been completely germ filled and actually, rarely fun, and in the grand scheme of things, it was just germs.
Speaking of germs, not only can you get two awful colds in the space of two months after a flu jab, (And apparently flu doesn't allow for Christmas - ask my husband!) But did you know a cold can cause toothache and jaw ache? I do now! I can honestly say there were times very recently when I wanted to chop my own head off to relieve the pain.
Thanks to a friend recommending sinus spray my pain started to disperse.
All around my face! My neck ached, my face ached, my ears ached and I felt, and heard, popping around my head! (Gruesome!) I never knew that sinuses could cause so much discomfort. I was pained and relieved this morning, when I blew my nose and one of my ears popped a squelchy and painful pop. Sorry, but ouch!
I have so much pressure in my head, I'm surprised it hasn't exploded on it's own accord.
So here we are! It's 2019 and as someone recently pointed out, a whole 20 years since we celebrated the millennium! Jeez Louise, where does the time go!
I'm not a believer in all that 'New Year New Me' stuff, it's the same regurgitated bumf every year and who actually sticks to New Years resolutions? I do believe in opportunities, experiences and having things to aim for though.
So as usual I've made my list of aims for this year:
So I'm back, for now and I 'm looking forward to a fresh year ahead .
If you're interested, leave a comment to let us know what exciting things you have planned for 2019. And if you can't be bothered, don't stress it, I get it!
Happy New Year!!
Eleven whole years I've been on Facebook,. Eleven. Whole. Years!
When I received my best wishes from Mr Zuckerberg, I was more shocked than appreciative! Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful for his love and always get giddy over his 'Happy Birthdays' and 'Friendversaries' but this one hit me.
I've been on Facebook half my daughter's life. Don't worry I put more effort into bringing her up than scrolling through my feed ;) but eleven years - wow!
I was first introduced to Facebook by a friend, she was impressed, excited and pretty insistent that I join. I told her I couldn't be bothered with that rubbish and carried on with my life...
Social Media Madness
As you guessed, I caved in.
Around six months later, my friend showed me her page, she then helped me to set up my own page and the rest is history!
After Facebook, I discovered Twitter, then Instagram and immediately felt the need to share my life with the world - what I had for dinner, what I was watching and how much sleep I'd had. You know, all the important stuff that the world simply needs to know...
Two years ago I began my blog, so I got a website, and another page for Twitter and Facebook and not forgetting Instagram! That's six, yes six social media pages to manage, to be honest, my personal pages are somewhat neglected and yet the world still revolves.
I entered the blogging world enthusiastically and nervously; enthusiastic to write yet nervous about etiquette, privacy and trust.
Social media gives so much information, some helpful and some not, just like the real world, and knowing who to connect with is hard, I mean how can you tell if a person is genuine without looking into their eyes?
I love blogging and I wanted to be good at it, I spent a lot of time drafting and scheduling blog posts, tweeting and posting regularly to get my stats up. I wanted lots of followers to make my blog successful and if I went a day without making myself known on social media, I'd worry that my blog would suffer.
I'll let you in on something, it does.
Yep, if I don't tweet, share a pic or publish a blog post my stats go down, it seems that the more active you are on social media, the more the cogs turn and show your posts opposed to other peoples.
So in short, to maintain my virtual life, I have to spend less time in my real life.
I refuse to do that because life is for living after all.
The Pressures of Social Media
Everything has it's pressures and we all know social media brings it's own.
I know social media can be both a help and a hindrance, and
I use it to communicate with friends and family. My blog also relies on it in many ways so it's useful to me.
On the flip side, I know people who have had chats misinterpreted, people who have been bullied and people who feel the pressure of living a perfect life, because that's often what's portrayed on social media. It's so easy to tap out a status, send an angry message or pretend life is okay by posting a photo. Too easy sometimes.
When my daughter was younger, I let her join Facebook.
We chatted about how amazing it was and also how it had the potential to cause problems so I set some rules:
That was the deal. Some may consider it invasive, I considered it parenting.
When I scroll through social media for my blog work, I come across people begging for followers, I hear the worry of being un-followed and there's an obvious stress about not having the time to publish another blog post because they're too busy. There are so many ways for us to be controlled by social media if we allow it.
We all want to be successful but there are enough pressures in life without adding virtual issues to the mix. Sometimes we're busy and that's life!
The love, the tears and the laughter - that's life.
Technology is amazing and will always be a massive part of our future.
Those who disrespect it will undoubtedly cause oppression and negativity and we all know there's enough of that in the world. If we respect social media it can have a positive impact on our lives, as long as we differentiate between our virtual lives and reality.
The key? Why live of course!
Life is about balance and it's most certainly for living, use social media, be grateful when Mr Zuckerberg wishes you happy birthday but don't forget to switch off too. In the grand scheme of things, numbers of followers and viewing stats don't matter.
Get offline, seek simplicity and rest assured your social media accounts will still be there when you switch back on. Not only that but you may be surprised to see you haven't actually missed much!
Make the effort to live, not just live but love and laugh too.
Sure it may be a statement that's over used, but I like it and living, loving and laughing? that's real life right there.
Hi I'm Sarah!
Blogger in The Lakes
I live in the beautiful Lake District...
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